FREE GUIDE FOR PARENTS OF TEENS & PRETEENS
What to Say When Your Teen Is Upset, Shut Down, or Disrespectful
A free guide with practical language to help you lower the temperature, protect your relationship, and respond without giving up your role as the parent.
Results From Parents Who Used This Guide
"I didn't realize how much my own fear was driving my reactions. Asking myself what I was actually afraid of before responding really made me think. Half the time, I'm responding to what I worry will happen in the future instead of what's happening right now.""I tried asking my daughter what she thought would help instead of immediately offering advice. She actually kept talking! Usually, I get a shrug or an 'I don't know.' It was such a small change, but it felt significant."
"I think I was afraid that validating my teenager's feelings meant I was giving in. This helped me see that I can understand why she's angry and still hold the boundary. That's a big shift for me."
"My son was giving me attitude, and instead of telling him he was being disrespectful, I told him the way he was speaking wasn't working and asked what was underneath it. It wasn't a perfect conversation, but it didn't turn into our usual argument."
"Reading this made me realize we have the same argument every week, just about different things. I hadn't really considered my part in keeping that pattern going."
"'I see you, I get you, I've got you' was such a helpful reminder. I think I've been so focused on getting my son to understand me that I've forgotten how important it is for him to feel understood."