Stop Fixing the Wrong One

When your teen’s behavior becomes frustrating, confusing, or concerning, it is natural to focus on the behavior you can see: unfinished homework, arguing, defiance, dishonesty, withdrawal, or repeated power struggles.

But the behavior is often not the real problem.

In this practical, approximately 30-minute video workshop, parent and teen coach Ashley Radzat helps you look beneath your teen’s behavior so you can understand what may actually be driving it. You will learn why surface-level solutions often create more conflict, how unmet emotional needs can show up through challenging behavior, and how to respond in a way that builds cooperation rather than disconnection.

Ashley introduces the four mistaken goals that frequently influence adolescent behavior:

• Attention: “Do I matter?”

• Power: “Do I get a say?”

• Revenge: “Do you understand how hurt I feel?”

• Assumed inadequacy: “I can’t, so why should I try?”

Through relatable examples, including homework struggles, you will learn a clear process for slowing down, regulating yourself, noticing emotional clues, identifying the need underneath the behavior, and shifting your focus from controlling your teen to truly understanding them.

In this workshop, you will learn how to:

• Recognize when you are addressing the symptom instead of the root problem

• Understand the emotional message behind difficult behavior

• Identify patterns connected to attention, power, hurt, and discouragement

• Respond without immediately escalating, lecturing, or fixing

• Replace repeated power struggles with curiosity and connection

• Choose practical responses that address what your teen genuinely needs

This workshop is ideal for parents who feel as though they keep addressing the same behavior without creating meaningful change. It will help you stop chasing the loudest problem in the room and begin responding to the real one.

Because when parents understand what is happening beneath the behavior, they are better able to offer the guidance, boundaries, and connection their teen needs.

Format: On-demand video workshop
Length: Approximately 30 minutes
Access: Watch at your own pace from any device